Welcome to Man Boobz! If you’d like to comment here, read this first.
The first time you comment here, your comment will go to moderation — that is, I will have to approve it before it appears. Think of it as a sort of audition. If your very first comment is especially obnoxious, tedious, or content-free, I’m not going to approve it and I may put you on a permanent IP ban. If your comment is borderline, I may approve it and put you on moderation to see if you can do better. I’m much stricter with initial comments than I am once I let you in the door, so be on your best behavior. Or at least not a complete ass.
In most cases, though, once I approve your first comment, you’re good to go, and your comments won’t have to go through me.
I don’t ban people for being offensive (within limits) and I’m not going to ban anyone just for disagreeing with me. So: TRIGGER WARNING: You may run into any number of things that are triggering. Some blogs and forums set themselves up as safe spaces, and they serve a valuable function. But this blog is not one of them.
Why don’t I censor douchey misogynists? Because the point of this blog is to expose misogynists and other assholes by quoting the hateful things they say — as someone famous once said, “fools are destroyed by their own words.” And so I allow misogynists and other assholes to post comments here, which are often as hateful as the things I quote in the posts. I don’t censor them for saying offensive things, because, again, the whole point of the blog is to expose this sort of hatred.
But I’m not a hands-off moderator either. I tried that, and it doesn’t work. I have to enforce some rules to fend off the forces of chaos and douchebaggery, and I reserve the right to ban anyone at any time for any reason I want. Given the sheer number of comments these days, I don’t have much patience for boring trolls. If you’re going to troll, please do it in an interesting manner.
I am quicker to moderate when the discussion is on a sensitive subject, like rape. Comments blaming or attacking rape victims are not welcome.
Beyond that: If you’re especially, or persistently, offensive, disruptive, or tedious, I’ll put you on moderation, which means your comments won’t go up until I get a chance to look at them, and maybe not even then. Things I find especially tedious include arguing for the sake of arguing, painfully literal thinking, and people who take over threads by posting dozens or even hundreds of comments in a day. In real life, that would be considered boorish behavior, and it’s really no different online.
Big no nos: nasty personal attacks and/or slurs.
Insults, ok, within reason. Calling someone an idiot is fine. Lots of people are idiots. Just use caution when moving much beyond this level of invective. Back-and-forth namecalling is tedious for everyone.
Nasty slurs, not allowed: Posts using words like “nigger” or “faggot” will go automatically to moderation. If you want to talk about someone else’s use of one of these slurs, disguise the term. Especially obnoxious bigots will be banned. Other slurs and otherwise problematic words to avoid: Cunt, twat, bitch, retard, spaz, cretin. I’m sure there are plenty of others I’m forgetting. Use your judgement, and listen to feedback from other commenters. If a bunch of commenters tell you a word is inappropriate, drop it from your vocabulary here and move on. Don’t argue about it, or explain that in your country it’s perfectly acceptable. I don’t care.
Grossly misrepresenting another person’s argument, or simply lying about them, another big no-no. Unless you’re a troll who’s obviously and hilariously wrong about everything; then I may keep your comments up for the lulz.
Threats, or posting someone’s personal information, will get you banned. Also bad: speculating about the possible criminal or unethical activity of real people (for example, internet posters who post under their real name). This is allowed only if the person is a public figure/celebrity. Or imaginary.
No sockpuppets. If I ban you, you stay banned.
Oh, and if I’m writing about someone who’s gotten harassed by misogynists on the internet, and you want to talk about how much they deserved it, or what a lying liar they are? Well, you can take those comments elsewhere. I’m not going to let this site add to the harassment.