A Nice Guy’s lament: “First, they came for the rapists … .”

You’ve all seen the famous quote attributed to German religious leader Martin Niemöller:

First they came for the communists,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a communist.

Then they came for the trade unionists,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Jews,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a Jew.

Then they came for me

and there was no one left to speak out for me.

Now one embittered “Nice Guy” on Tumblr who goes by the name joetomcollins has written his own version, with feminists as the Nazis, rapists as the communists, and, well, just read it yourself:

When the Feminists came for the Rapists,

I remained silent;

I was not a Rapist.

When they locked up the stalkers,

I remained silent;

I was not a stalker.

When they came for the Players,

I did not speak out;

I was not a Player.

When they came for the men who they got bored of,

I remained silent;

I wasn’t some one they were bored of yet.

When they came for me, the nice guy,

there was no one left to speak out.

So, yeah. Let’s think this through a little bit. When Niemöller made his now famous remarks, he was expressing his own sorrow for not standing up to Hitler when he started arresting Communists. So is joetomcollins suggesting that he – and we – should have stopped “the feminists” from going after rapists and stalkers?

Joetomcollins doesn’t say, but he does have a lot more to say on the evilness of feminists and stuck-up women in general:

[I]f I’m going to be the bad guy no matter what I do… might as well get it the fuck out the way right up front.

I might as well ENJOY being the villain.

The FemeNazi messsage is LOUD AND CLEAR!

I am an average normal guy. I am never going to be good enough.

Especially in NYC where you only personalities you get are native “rats” who have learned to survive to being ruthless, and Type “A” psychopaths who come here to conquer everything.

Dude, if you don’t like the people in New York, then maybe, just maybe, you should move out of New York. It’s a high-pressure place and, well, you don’t seem to respond well to pressure, let’s put it that way.

He continues on with a refrain that I suspect will sound awfully familiar to a lot of you:

Man hasn’t had the ability to choose his woman for at least the last 150 years. The woman chooses the man. ALWAYS.

Now even showing interest is offensive to the FemeNAZI.

We aren’t talking about DOING anything but telling someone you think they are attractive. If a guy YOU liked rejected you, he would be Satan incarnate, but when a woman rejects a guy…



… and we’re supposed to nod sheepishly and apologize for bothering you as we leave with a smile.

When I read shit like this I have to wonder: who exactly are you approaching, and what exactly are you saying to them? I’ve made some awkward passes in my day, but I’ve never gotten this response from anyone.

Could it be that you’re a dick? Your post seems to suggest that you are — an angry, self-obsessed dick almost completely lacking in self-awareness and empathy.

I mean, seriously, comparing your inability to get laid to the fucking Holocaust? Your bad luck with women to the murder of millions? Douche move, my man.

If you embrace your dickhood, as you seem to want to do, and become much more straightforward about your sexual desires, instead of trying to hide behind a nice-guy facade, you might actually get laid more often than you’re getting now. But you’re not likely to get a lot of repeat customers. And for good reason: no woman wants (or deserves) to be saddled with all your bullshit.

So let’s assume, for the purpose of argument, that you’re not a full-blown dick; you’re just a horny young guy on a sexual losing streak lashing out at women for your own failures. Let’s assume you are willing to work on actually reducing your dickishness. (Readers: All I ask is a little temporary suspension of disbelief.)

Reading your account of your romantic failures, and bearing in mind that most straight men don’t get this sort of response from the women they approach, there are several possibilities:

  1. either you are exaggerating the alleged awfulness of the rejections you’ve gotten, or
  2. there is something desperately wrong with your approach — perhaps you’re cornering women in elevators at 4 AM, or otherwise transgressing their boundaries in inappropriate ways — or
  3. the women you are approaching are, you know, bitches.

You really only have two choices here: you can spend the rest of your life wallowing in bitterness at women, or you can reconsider your approach. Find some woman you are friendly with – one you are not obsessed with fucking – and explain to her what’s going on, and ask her where you think you’re going wrong. If it’s your approach, learn to better respect people’s boundaries and read their body language; some women don’t want to be bugged by anyone when they are, you know, on the way to work. If it’s your selection of women, select different women.

And stop posting tirades on the internet about how women are a bunch of evil Nazis out to oppress you and your poor lonely penis. You know how, when you jump into cold water, your genitals shrink in horror from the cold? Something similar happens to the vaginas of most women when they read shit like you just wrote.

About David Futrelle

I run the blog We Hunted the Mammoth, which tracks (and mocks) online misogyny. My writing has appeared in a wide variety of places, including Salon, Time.com, the Washington Post, the New York Times Book Review and Money magazine. I like cats.

Posted on August 14, 2011, in alpha males, antifeminism, beta males, creepy, evil women, hypocrisy, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, nice guys, oppressed men, reactionary bullshit. Bookmark the permalink. 104 Comments.

  1. Why would I want to come for the players? I mean, I like players, as long as they’re respectful and sex-positive and fun to get along with. I want to get laid a lot, they want to facilitate this. Our interests are compatible. I mean, it might be annoying for the monogamous-committed-sex-only people to be hit on by someone just looking for a casual thing, but that’s not inherently more annoying than someone looking for a monogamous committed relationship hitting on a player, and either way I’m not going to–

    …Oh, you mean that kind of “come for.” Cool. Carry on.

  2. LAWL I love it when these guys try to be “intellectual and deep.”

  3. Damn it! Close down the Nice Guy “holiday” camps NOW! They’re on to us!

  4. first they came for the guys who write in stale cliches,

    and i did speak out, but it was just to say ‘yeah fuck those guys’.

  5. So, wait a minute. He doesn’t think stalkers and rapists should be “come for”? What, exactly, should we do with them? /rhetorical question.

  6. Give them cookies.

  7. It’s hard to come up with any interpretation of that little verse that doesn’t make it sound like the guy’s pro-rape.

    I also think his idea of choosing a woman isn’t in the “which women shall I approach for dates?” sense but in the “I’d like that one, please bag her up for delivery” sense.

    And I think possibility 1 is the major one here. A lot of guys seem to take a “no, I’m not interested” (or, god forbid, a “you’re making me uncomfortable”) as a “GRRARGH I HATE YOU AND LAUGH AT YOU AND AM DISGUSTED BY YOU!” Rejection does sting, but… there’s just no perspective there.

  8. He seems to regret that you can’t just club a woman over the head and drag her back to the cave.

    I’ve turned guys down before, but never like that. I bet his approach is terrible if in fact he is getting those reactions (which I doubt–he’s hearing HOW DARE YOU, but it’s probably more like “no, thank you”).

  9. theLaplaceDemon

    I would like to cosign Ozy’s comment.

    Also, as I said on the forum, the whole “I should have stood up for the rapists and stalkers” implication (assertion?) kinda freaks me out.

    Best case scenario: Dude is kinda illiterate and doesn’t know the point of the original poem.
    Worst case scenario: Those poor rapists shouldn’t be prosecuted????

  10. Holly- I’m pretty sure these guys’ ideal dating scenario resembles Ye Olde Horse Faire.

  11. Dude has clearly not figured out that genuinely nice guy =/= pro-rape selfish asshole.

    Not to mention that he’s got the whole choosing partners thing all wrong; both people are pretty much gonna need to be involved in that decision, or no one is going to be happy. but i suppose if you really enjoy wallowing in your own misery, then having a partner who hates you is probably the ideal scenario.

  12. Sometimes the Goodwin writes itself.

  13. FoSF – I don’t think these guys have an ideal dating scenario.

    I really don’t. I think their ideal dating scenario is actually a very poorly coalesced thing in which they choose the woman (but don’t have the burden of making the first move) and the woman wants to sleep with them right away (but isn’t a dirty slut) and she wants to marry them (but isn’t clingy or commitment-demanding) and be their full-time domestic servant (but doesn’t take any of their money).

    They understand that they’re unhappy with their current dating scenario, but I don’t think that they actually have a fully realized alterative in mind.

  14. http://www.prisonplanet.com/rick-perry-hurt-little-girls.html

    Hey pussy beggar, let’s see how “White Knight” you really are, c’mon, O that’s right, you dare not bite the hand that feeds YOUR masters, HA HA HAAAAH!

  15. This is hilarious, I clicked on the about me tab on the tumblr page and this is what it says:

    I have never commanded respect, only earned it.
    When I have tried to command it with fear, rage, or ego, I have lost it.

    I can be disappointed when people don’t meet my expectations,
    but I have no right to blame them for that failing.

    I cannot control how the world treats me or reacts to me,
    I can only control my expectations and reactions to those things.

    I can protect myself from abuse,
    with out abusing in retaliation.

    The universe tells us we must be petty and cruel to survive.
    I will show you all, that the universe is wrong.

    I will fail in every one of these creeds because I am human.
    I will try again in every one of them because I will be divine.

    I am ruthless in my compassion.
    I am aggressive in my kindness.
    I will make the world a better place by example.

    I am Joe Tom Collins.

    That made me giggle to no end. I think joetomcollins is going to be my new catchphrase for hypocritical douchiness.

  16. At least Joe hasn’t met up with the evo psych MRAs yet. Those guys fantasize that in the ancient Paleolithic past, men just got to run up and club any desirable 13-year-old over the head and drag her by the hair to their mancave. To them, men are “nice” when, out of the goodness of their hearts, they refrain from doing so. They truly believe this. In their minds, their failures and rejections are indignities men never evolved to suffer. In “nature”, men have the upper hand, and it’s only culture (read: patriarchal “civilization”) that keeps men from getting what’s rightly theirs. They’re protecting us from themselves, see? Joe already thinks like this, just without the patina of “scientism”…

    A couple of obvious problems with this thinking: first, humans have always lived in tribes. Back when survival was much more difficult than it is now, unwanted pregnancies were a huge drain on tribal resources. Marriage-type commitment ceremonies developed in part to cut down on baby mama drama, and unwanted children, so resources could be allocated fairly and efficiently. Of course, men got to decide how that was done. But there was never a time when men just got to willy nilly stick it wherever they pleased.

    Second, anyone with 3-credits worth of freshman biology knows that females in just about every species are the “choosers” and always have been. If they want to thank anyone for trying to take women out of the “gatekeeper” role, it’s feminists. D’oh reality is hard!

  17. Classic “nice guy” ploy: Well, I’ve been nice for long enough, I’m gonna become one of the “assholes”, just you wait, you’re really going to rue the day that YOU let this happen!

    I remember thinking shit like this when I was like 19.

  18. Isn’t it usually “Feminazi”?

    “FemeNazi” brings to mind images of goose stepping in high heels and frilly dresses.

  19. I bet one million billion kazillion dollars that this guy has never actually asked a woman out and these cruel rejections exist only in his head. He’s angry that hot women have not telepathically guessed his interest in them, broken down his dorm-room door, and jumped on his cock while he’s sitting at his computer typing this crap.

    It’s like how MRAL’s “women spit on me” turned out to mean “women walk past me on the street, sometimes with boyfriends who aren’t me, without stopping to offer me a blow job.”

    Still, you can’t tell me you didn’t cry at the end of Schindler’s List, when Oskar Schindler broke down crying because selling his watch could have gotten one more rapist out on parole.

  20. no more mr nice guy

    These guys want women out of their league or already taken. And they are so socially retarded that they come off as very creepy. One of them wanted to go to public places to ask attractive women to go out with him and if the woman refused he wanted to ask her if she knew other attractive women.

    And these guys really believe that stalkers and rapists are Alpha male.

  21. “This car…why did I keep the car? It could have bought ten rapes…twenty rapes! This pin… this pin could have paid for a pile of dead kittens for a stalker to leave on his coworker’s doorstep! This ring could have bought a pickup artist one more stupid hat!”

  22. i think the part about “the men they got bored of [sic]” is actually the creepiest part.

    “fuck you for moving on with your life. you have personally holocausted me.”

  23. The only stalkers I’ve ever had were exactly like Joe. Both of them. Exactly. It’s almost uncanny how foundational NiceGuy(tm) pathological thinking is to their sick stalking behaviors.

    I’ve never once had an “alpha male” harass me, call me names because I wouldn’t go out with him, follow me home, hack into my computer, change my email passwords, log onto my bank accounts to keep track of what I’m up to, spread ridiculous rumors about me, and act all kinds of obsessive. But I’ve had “NiceGuys” do all these things, to the point where I’ve had to get police involved, several times. I joke but they’re frightening people…

  24. no more mr nice guy

    There’s a guy (Charlesddt1) that posted a creepy video on Youtube of what he said was his ex girlfriend (Megan) saying that wanted to take her back:

    Then a woman showed up in the comment section saying that she was Megan and that she has never been the girlfriend of Charlesddt1 and that the guy with her in the pictures is not Charlesddt1 and that Charlesddt1 stole her Facebook pictures to make the video. I think that many of these Nice Guys(TM) are like that : they steal Facebook pictures of women and then claim these women are their girlfriends.

  25. Also!

    “Being nice” is necessary but not sufficient to get laid. This applies for everyone. If you want someone to have sex with you, then you need to be someone who they want to have sex with. If you want someone to have a relationship with you, then you need to actively bring value to their lives.

    This applies the other way too– “s/he’s nice and interested in me” is NOT a good reason to date someone.

  26. mephistephanies

    What is with this expectation that every woman you talk to is supposed to throw themselves at your feet and beg to touch your penis? Is Hustler writing life now?

  27. No, not every woman you talk to. Just the hot ones.

  28. Any chance these nice guys tm are physically attracted to exactly the women most likely to reject them? I think you can usually tell when a person is, let’s see, defensive, has guards up, has ‘tude, is unlikely to receive approaches, while also being “hot”. I run into people every so often who radiate “back off” signals. If I’m (perversely?) interested in foisting myself onto them, literally or figuratively, it’s not going to end well. I might even get spat on, or sworn at, if I really push it. Somehow I see slavey and mral doing this…

  29. No, not every woman you talk to. Just the hot ones.

    You had me going there for a second, Ozy, but I’m too smart for you. If she isn’t hot, she doesn’t count as a woman. She’s just a faceless humanoid occupying some space.

  30. Off-topic: there is a dog sitting in my lap licking my face. That’s her picture on the left.

    That is all.

  31. no more mr nice guy

    What is with this expectation that every woman you talk to is supposed to throw themselves at your feet and beg to touch your penis?

    These guys have Narcissistic Personality Disorder and believe the world revolve around them and that they are entitled to women. That’s why they cannot stand seeing women with others guys. George Sodini had the same mental problem.

  32. theLaplaceDemon


    I miss having dogs😦

  33. hugs theLaplaceDemon

  34. Do you live in an apartment?

  35. theLaplaceDemon

    Yep. I also anticipate moving a fair amount over the next few years, and generally do not have the resources to be a good dog owner at the moment. But I grew up with dogs and miss them a lot.

  36. Dang, those feminists will come for just about anyone!

  37. I think any guy should be pretty insulted by this poem -_- He puts guys that aren’t hurting nebody (players, boring guys, nice guys) on a spectrum w/ rapists and stalkers, as if they’re kinda all the same O_O;; And that’s creepy as f- … Also it’s rly insulting to the original poem and survivors of the holocaust and well… just everybody I’d think >_:|

    This is serious WTFery. >_<;;

  38. I think any guy should be pretty insulted by this poem -_- He puts guys that aren’t hurting nebody (players, boring guys, nice guys) on a spectrum w/ rapists and stalkers, as if they’re kinda all the same O_O;; And that’s creepy as f- … Also it’s rly insulting to the original poem and survivors of the holocaust and well… just everybody I’d think -_-; (except rapists) Rapists harm ppl by being rapists. Jewish ppl, or gypsies, or etc do not. Rapists aren’t some poor beset upon ethnic group that is being persecuted -_-

    Also, he seems to think all rapists are male (again, rapists as part of a continuum of men) and that rape survivors can’t be male (since he seems to not think of rape as a bad thing and just some weird thing women don’t like) >:|

    This is serious WTFery. >_<;;

    (sry HTML broke)

  39. no more mr nice guy

    Also, he seems to think all rapists are male (again, rapists as part of a continuum of men) and that rape survivors can’t be male (since he seems to not think of rape as a bad thing and just some weird thing women don’t like)

    MRAs treat male-on-male rape as something normal. For example, Roissy said that female cuckolding is worst than butt rape and most his fan-club agreed with him ::


    One of The Spearhead author is Jack Donovan and he’s gay. He has written several books about homosexuality (which he called androphilia) and he defended male-on-male sexual harassment saying it’s normal male bonding and most of his fans agreed with him :


  40. omg I saw Jack Donovan all over the comments in the Spearhead article about trans ppl… and he seems to think bullying of boys is a good thing too O_O;;;

  41. @No More Mr. Nice Guy

    Yeah, these guys are good at cooking up bogus relationships in their minds that never really happened. I’d never even talked to one of the guys who followed me around.

    I think we need to start having “relationship ed” just like we have “sex ed” in school. There are a whole lot of people who have no clue what a healthy attitude toward relationships looks like. When you look at guys like Samuel, who are so obviously clueless, and yet begging for some kind of guidance, you wonder if maybe giving them advice in the formative years might have paid off… the messages they get from media are so mixed that they’re not helping, either.

  42. WTF… that Roissy thing… is he rly advocating for male survivors to just “suck it up” and thinks PTSD can be just “worked out in a gym” (in fact he seems to imply it has positive side effects since ppl will compliment your physique) and also for male survivors to not tell nebody!? >_:O

  43. Ok, reading the comments it occurs to me to say this. The profile for stalking victim…”nice girls” the ones that appear accessible and “nice” they get the most stalkers. True story, just thought I would throw that in here. Is there projection going on with this dude? His entitled outlook is not nice at all.

  44. I just tried to read the comments on Roissy’s piece and I almost threw up:\ (srsly, not rhetorically) and I couldn’t continue… they srsly all seem to think rape is no big deal and it’s over in “90 seconds” and you get a little PTSD for a couple months maybe, don’t talk about it, then you move on w/ your life… >_<

  45. As bad as it sounds, he does have a point. I can’t count the number of times I’ve thought “man, I am in the middle of a no-sex holocaust”.

    Er, scratch that, I have never thought that. In fact the history of Nazi Germany provides a terrible metaphor for feminism or a dearth of sexytime. You have to spend a lot of time deliberately getting yourself angry at women (not even a woman, but women in general) to even come up with something like this. Joe Tom Collins’ notion that he is a Nice Guy is part of the personal mythology that tells him that is is an injustice that he is not getting laid and allows him to criticize women for refusing to be “chosen” by him, and thereby justify the “transition” to Bad Guy.

    no more mr nice guy wrote:
    “For example, Roissy said that female cuckolding is worst than butt rape and most his fan-club agreed with him”

    Notice how he lovingly accentuates the pain of being cuckolded but treats the outcome of rape as some sort of silent, inert shame that at the most inspires you to work out more. And after raising a child for ten years, suddenly it’s an outrage that the hypothetical man can’t stop paying child support. What loving father would want to stop supporting a child he raised, biological or not? Roissy(/Heartiste?) never mentions a damaged bond with the child as one of the consequences. It’s like he thinks fatherhood is a financial investment. Second verse, same as the first: it’s the result of a lot of time spent getting angry about very particular things.

  46. Alright people it’s obvious that this dude is completely panic stricken.
     I’m guessing the rejections he visualizes in his mind have taken over his  psyche.

    Rejections are hardly ever that bad & I don’t think this dude is willing to find out.
     The man has a phobia thats manifested into hatred…..and….Now I’m wondering if this is a common trend.

  47. no more mr nice guy

    omg I saw Jack Donovan all over the comments in the Spearhead article about trans ppl… and he seems to think bullying of boys is a good thing too O_O;;;

    You mean this article ?


  48. @Ami: you get a little PTSD for a couple months maybe, don’t talk about it, then you move on w/ your life…

    I had a guy try to kidnap me off the street when I was twelve. When I didn’t get into his car, he exposed himself to me. I still have panic attacks when I hear about kids getting kidnapped or molested – what if it was that guy? What if I have to testify after he gets another girl, maybe one a little more trusting that I was?

    He got caught (didn’t expect me to notice the fliers he was distributing, the piles in the back of his car, or the store they were advertising). He confessed, got six moths in jail. But I’m thirty three and still a little bit afraid to watch the news. I hope he thinks his thirty seconds of fun were worth my twenty years of fear.

  49. Kendra, the bionic mommy

    Oh my gosh, Kathleen. That is terrible. I’m sorry that happened to you.

  50. Kathleen- that’s terrifying. I lived in a large city for a long time and was completely stunned when the exhibitionist guys would do their exposure thing. And I was an adult at the time! I remember once just being completely icked out and unable to concentrate at work for a whole day after the first incident…after a while it does become part of the landscape…

    Worst part? The guys who worked for the train wouldn’t do anything about it and just shrugged when people told them.

  51. @NF4ever: It’s what a lot of people would call ‘little stuff’ that can cause lasting damage. Jezebel had a thread about a website that gave guys tips on exposing themselves to unsuspecting women – they honestly thought that not only was it fun for them, that women actually want to see dicks all the time. The comment thread got epic, and a lot of women spoke of having ptsd-like symptoms after guys had exposed themselves.

    And I’ll point out that there are times when I really appreciate seeing a naked man – but these are also times that I’ve consented to the sight. Even if I were to consent to nudity in a public place, it would be wrong, wrong, WRONG because the people around us haven’t. And it’s, you know, gross.

  52. I didn’t realize the reason feminists wanted rapists locked up was because we were bored with them…

  53. You know, in my life’s travels it has occurred that I have turned down women. I’ll admit to having some pretty strict guidelines for attractiveness, so if a girl’s outside of those I’m not likely to respond to her advances. I’ve never been harassed for this, and with good reason since I’ve always been polite in my dismissal. I’ve gotten a few friends of the girl telling me I should go after her, etc. but when I explained my lack of interest plainly I was left alone. It’s actually totally acceptable to say no to a girl. Men actually do have that right. I’m not sure how he ever got this idea. Maybe some girl reacted by flipping out at him, in which case it was her who was in the wrong. Fucking Nice Guys thinking they have any grasp of societal protocol…

  54. I didn’t realize the reason feminists wanted rapists locked up was because we were bored with them…

    Rape is just so passé. It’s been done to death by this point.

    C’mon, guys, think of a new way to express your utter contempt for the personal autonomy of another human being. Something different and exciting!

  55. @Kathleen omg I’m so sorry that happened to you😦 *offers hugs if that’s ok*

    Yeah… ppl who have never been through something like that.. it’s easy for them to say “geez suck it up” or that it only lasts 90 seconds or w/e >:\ But they’re not the ones who are living w/ the damage and trauma those events cause >:|

    It’s also toxic b/c it adds another layer of victim blaming to survivors.. that it wasn’t a big deal and if you HAVEN’T gotten over it in a few months, or a year or 10 years… then there’s something wrong w/ you, or you’re being over-sensitive or something >:O

    @no more mr nice guy that’s the one

  56. hi manboobz. i appreciate the stomach-churning work you do for us all, and I’ve lifted a few of your links for my own blog, with credit, at toofatforourpants.blogspot.com

  57. Yeah, I’m in no way prudish, Kathleen. I have a pretty healthy appetite, and I don’t mind nudity in the least. But there’s always something so creepy in their eyes. Really creepy, vacant and violent. Like they’re trying to offend your sensibilities, not titilate you.

    I’m also not a typical “friendly” nice girl type, so I don’t think the problem is that these guys are magnetically attracted to my amazing personality. From what I’ve seen, this stuff happens to whoever is handy. If you live in a big enough city, it’s an inevitability. The trick is to learn how to recognize these guys from far away and avoid, avoid, avoid. My advice to women: if you see a guy espousing the typical NiceGuy(tm) views, run, don’t walk, in the opposite direction. But women are already doing that, aren’t they?

  58. @Ami: So true. The expectation that you recover totally from trauma after a certain period of time is such bullshit. Even worse is the ‘you’re just trying to get attention’ or better yet, ‘you’re just using x injury/trauma as an excuse to get out of school/work/whatever.’ Because hey, you look mostly fine on the outside!

  59. Off-topic: there is a dog sitting in my lap licking my face. That’s her picture on the left.

    Our dog is lying upside down on the couch, while I am pretending to work on the computer. On the plus side, she has not started farting yet, but since she got some chicken skin tonight, it shouldn’t be long.

    Also, every time David posts the results of his spelunking efforts, my theory that MRAs and PUAs ans the other misogynistic assholes just have absolutely no capacity to understand that women are people too, just as valid as they are, with the same autonomy and actual consciousness and stuff.

  60. I just now got around to reading the link that No More Mr. Nice Guy posted about cuckoldry vs. butt rape and I am fucking seething. Couple of facts about me: 1. I suffered sexual abuse as a child, Sexual abuse that could be called butt rape as roissy ever so fucking eloquently put it. 2. I was adopted. I was raised by a wonderful father and mother with whom I share no genetic connection. Both of these things have me seriously pissed off about this post. But the fact that he is trivializing rape (which does anger me, make no mistake) isn’t nearly as infuriating as the idea that someone is not a father to a child just because that child doesn’t have his genes.

    I’m going to go ahead and apologize for the poor writing of this post right now. I’ve been drinking and I’m angry about this. It doesn’t lend itself to eloquence.

  61. Damn pi male, I hope you’re ok.😦 No one should have to go through that type of shit.

    *supportive fist bump*

  62. Jill the Spinster

    That roissy link is disgusting. The first thing I thought of is, what do they think of adopted/fostered kids (nothing?).

    And what of a victim impact statement of a male sexual abuse victim? Sexual confusion, future relationship disfunction, depression, alcohol and drug abuse, suicide…

  63. My spidey senses tell me David is working on an epic post as we speak that will likely need a trigger warning. Ami points out all the “good stuff” once again.

  64. @pi male: Non of that is actually objectionable, except that he manifestly dosn’t live like that. It’s not particularly original or clever or sophisticated, but you don’t need any of those things in moral philosophy, particularly originality.


    He’s angry that hot women have not telepathically guessed his interest in them

    What “telepathically”? They’re hot and he’s not making crude remarks or hand gestures at them, how could they not recogniize that as interest?


    The man has a phobia thats manifested into hatred

    Which, as we all know, leads to the Dark Side.


    It’s actually totally acceptable to say no to a girl. Men actually do have that right.

    You have the right, but given how uninterested (these people think) women are in sex, and consequently how seldom the opportunity arises, the calculus is completely different.

    My right to say no only matters if I have the opportunity to exercise it. If it were true that all women had a neverending supply of appealing men interested in them and women never showed interest — and they’d hardly need to — on the rare occasion a man was hit on he’d be stupid to say no, since it might be his only chance to have sex (that is, without competing with all the other men in some woman’s neverending supply), and for most men the right would be extremely abstract.

  65. Hm, quick question – what does cultural Marxism mean? This word gets thrown around the Manopshere a lot, and I somehow suspect it has some connection to those evul feminazis, but it somehow intrigues me. Someone cares to explain?

  66. Aaron Swanson: Bilderbergers? Really. OK.

    But, in a serious response to your idiocy:

    It’s the needle. I don’t really think this will cure your stupid, but others might find it useful.

  67. “Cultural Marxism” is a fairly stupid term, and the way it’s used by right-wing bloggers with no understanding of actual Marxism doesn’t correspond to its real meaning (to the extent that it even has one). A “cultural Marxist” would be somebody who analyses culture(s) in Marxian terms, and so “cultural Marxism” would refer to the (Marxist) analysis of culture. It doesn’t really have anything to do with feminism or “multiculturalism”, contrary to the claims of deeply confused right-wingers.

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