Comments Policy
Don’t make me do this.
Welcome to Man Boobz! If you’d like to comment here, read this first.
The first time you comment here, your comment will go to moderation — that is, I will have to approve it before it appears. Think of it as a sort of audition. If your very first comment is especially obnoxious, tedious, or content-free, I’m not going to approve it and I may put you on a permanent IP ban. If your comment is borderline, I may approve it and put you on moderation to see if you can do better.
In most cases, though, once I approve your first comment, you’re good to go, and your comments won’t have to go through me.
I don’t ban people for being offensive (within limits) and I’m not going to ban anyone for disagreeing with me. So: TRIGGER WARNING: You may run into any number of things that are triggering. Some blogs and forums set themselves up as safe spaces, and they serve a valuable function. But this blog is not one of them.
Why don’t I censor douchey misogynists? Because the point of this blog is to expose misogynists and other assholes by quoting the hateful things they say — as someone famous once said, “fools are destroyed by their own words.” And so I allow misogynists and other assholes to post comments here, which are often as hateful as the things I quote in the posts. I don’t censor them for saying offensive things, because, again, the whole point of the blog is to expose this sort of hatred.
But I’m not a hands-off moderator either. I tried that, and it doesn’t work. I have to enforce some rules to fend off the forces of chaos and douchebaggery, and I reserve the right to ban anyone at any time for any reason I want. Given the sheer number of comments these days, I don’t have much patience for boring trolls. If you’re going to troll, please do it in an interesting manner.
Beyond that: If you’re especially, or persistently, offensive, disruptive, or tedious, I’ll put you on moderation, which means your comments won’t go up until I get a chance to look at them, and maybe not even then.
Big no nos: nasty personal attacks and/or slurs.
Insults, ok, within reason. Calling someone an idiot is fine. Lots of people are idiots. Just use caution when moving much beyond this level of invective. Back-and-forth namecalling is tedious for everyone.
Nasty slurs, not allowed: Posts using words like “nigger” or “faggot” will go automatically to moderation. If you want to talk about someone else’s use of one of these slurs, disguise the term. Especially obnoxious bigots will be banned.
Grossly misrepresenting another person’s argument, or simply lying about them, another big no-no. Unless you’re a troll who’s obviously and hilariously wrong about everything; then I may keep your comments up for the lulz.
Threats, or posting someone’s personal information, will get you banned. Also bad: speculating about the possible criminal or unethical activity of real people (for example, internet posters who post under their real name). This is allowed only if the person is a public figure/celebrity. Or imaginary.
You should probably mention that first-timers go to moderation.
You’re right. Will fix.
I notice you seem concerned about “douchy misogynists” but not about bitchy man-bashers. You know, people who rail on and on about men but whenever some legitimate criticism arises about female privilege they rip their hair out and scream bloody murder. You know, hypocritical bullshit.
Hi- just wanted to let you know that regretsy is big on rape jokes. Rape jokes are encouraged in the comments and are on their banner ads and bags/tshirts. Just bringing it up because you link to them in your “funny” section.
…on your old page, the blogspot page. Sorry, forgot to mention that.
Book-burner
I am so glad that I found your site. You clarify, articulately, just how bizarre the manosphere is.
https://www.facebook.com/WhoNeedsFeminism
I can not tell you how many ignorant statements I have seen on this site…
It’s interesting how many gay slurs I’ve seen posted on MRA sites. Not to mention the word “mangina” which is so overused by MRAs that it has lost all meaning. And “shaming tactit.” If they are such skilled logicians, why don’t see that their entire criticism of feminism is one big straw man argument? And calling someone a “mangina” isn’t meant to shame them? I believe the MRM holds a disproportionate number of sociopaths, narcissists, and pathological liars, which explains their highly antisocial tendencies. But they would just call that an “ad hominem attack” an call me a c*nt.
This is a quote from your comment policy “Nasty slurs, not allowed: Posts using words like “nigger” or “faggot” will go automatically to moderation. If you want to talk about someone else’s use of one of these slurs, disguise the term. Obnoxious bigots will be banned.”
Yet you post this (and many more) noxious, hate-filled ( won’t even go into the untrue part) slur about the entire female gender with impunity…See any irony there, asswipe?
Kathleen, this is a blog about misogyny. We expose and mock misogyny; we don’t celebrate it. It’s hard to discuss the subject without quoting directly what misogynists say. And what they say is often horrific, whether or not they use slurs. That’s why I have a trigger warning at the top of every page.
If someone directs misogynist slurs at a particular commenter here, I will put the slur-user on moderation or ban them.
Argh. How many people come here and DON’T READ THE DAMNED TAGLINE.
Though I think censoring all the misogynist slurs the boobs use would just make it even MORE horrifying. See MRAL’s “Her Holy Highness” bullshit.
That’s the second “how dare you quote misogynists to mock them, you misogynist!”. Maybe you make a pop up that flash in the screen of all newcomers, with your slogan and a voice saying it. Or force people to click “I read it” after a form saying “I understand that this website is against misogyny”.
How long has this blog been around? Pity I didn’t find it *before* I suffered vicarious brain damage from reading mra blogs. The manosphere needs a mental health warning.
Ok I’ve just seen this comment, but that kind of seals it, Fah lo Suee cannot be a practicing or teaching psych if ze is claiming “vicarious brain damgage” as a need for “a mental health warning” — that too much stupid might make you stupid is kind of a known fact, not a mental illness. (Of course, I’m fairlu sure Fah lo Suee has moved on by now, but yeah, wtf?!)
trigger warning is an understatement. grrrr.
You do realise this website is trying to fight hate with hate?
I consider myself a liberal guy but I felt hurt by a lot of comments directed towards men on here.
Your both as bad as each other.
Read the header, jerkoff. We mock misogyny. If you’re a misogynist, you might be mocked and have your fees hurt. Oh, well.
Care to point out any of this “man hate”, Liam? If you’re feeling so hurt, then it should be easy for you to point those things out to us.
I feel I shouldn’t have to explain that making hateful, bigoted remarks and mocking people for doing same aren’t equivalent acts, but here we are.
This is about your comments section from a technical standpoint, not a content one. (I wasn’t sure where else to post this, but I figure that since you’ll be moderating me as a first-time commenter, you’ll definitely see this. Oh, and feel free to actually delete it instead of posting it. It doesn’t necessarily need to appear on your site.)
So here’s my thing. I love your posts, and I love how smart and funny your community is. What I hate is when I arrive after 250 comments (or more!) have already appeared on a post, and I have to click back through a bunch of pages of comments in order to start reading from the beginning.
Is there some way you can add functionality to get to the earliest comments with one click? Or even to have the comments section default to “oldest first”? It really would make your comments sections much easier to enjoy.
Thanks.
Is it okay to berate and mock the handicapped, as long as they mock people who you disagree with in the process?
“Do you need help putting your pants on in the morning?”
http://manboobz.com/2012/09/26/what-do-women-want-ask-a-dude-ask-an-awesome-dude/comment-page-6/#comment-207391
“Do I need to tell your nurse that you are on the internet?”
- http://manboobz.com/2012/09/26/what-do-women-want-ask-a-dude-ask-an-awesome-dude/comment-page-6/#comment-207401
I notice you and all of your commentators were coldly indifferent to this hypocrisy, which implies that you care more about just lashing out at people and calling them names than doing any good. You might do something now that I’ve brought it up, but it’s pretty clear at this point that you would rather hide bigotry coming from your own ranks than to call it out. That’s why we need the Men’s Rights Movement.
*lashing out at people you disagree with
@IR
Is it okay to make video games based on beating up pregnant women?
Hahaha, yeah, a racist, ableist, homophobic hate movement is not exactly a check to other forms of bigotry.
IR/FactFree, stop trying to rules lawyer the comment policy because your dim fee fees were hurt. You are fucking pathetic and stupid, what a toxic combo.
Poor IR, he just wanted to be listened to as he spouted page after page of bullshit in support of his abuser lobbying group. All he wants is for abusers and their supporters to get a fair shake. Why are we so mean to him?
Aww! Lookee! IR is trying to do a smartie!
It would be precious if it was not for the fact that you are a currish flap-mouthed canker blossom, a puny pottle-deep moldwarp, a weedy beef-witted horn-beast of picayune means, mind, and endowment.
I will apologize though for being so thoughtless as to not insult you with demiurgic phrasing. I promise to be much much more inspired in my vituperation of you.
Since this space is for discussing comments moderation, I’d like to suggest that we avoid making reference to IR’s logic vomit outside of what he just puked on this thread.
Though, on-topic — the ‘nurse’ comment was in fact ableist and I think we should be avoiding making links between mental illness and MRA fools. It is a disservice to the mentally ill.
The pants comment, though? That shit was just calling you incompetent, son. Eat it.
I should have said nanny-I was thinking childish.
Like I said, they would rather shoot the messenger than actually address the problem I brought up. They don’t care about learning or improving themselves, they just want to attack people they disagree with because sexism.
Then answer the question I posed:
Where in this:
does it mean that a man can do this:
Otherwise I will go back to castigating you as you are but a beslubbering bat-fowling flirt-gill.
Haha how much time have you spent on MRA sites saying “You know, maybe we shouldn’t be working towards more rape and abuse in society.”
And yeah, it was kind of ableist, unless I missed something about the context. But it’s not really in the same ballpark as advocating for violence.
And again, a hate movement isn’t “neccessary” to address these problems in an actual movement. I mean, the KKK isn’t really in a position to call out some members of the civil rights movement for homophobia, you know what I mean?
“I was referring to this, cretin, not Nurdy Dancing’s article:”
- http://manboobz.com/2012/09/26/what-do-women-want-ask-a-dude-ask-an-awesome-dude/comment-page-5/#comment-207347
I think that’s a slur. Like I said, though, they’d rather hide their own bigotry and scream at people than make any positive change.
Hold up, IR, I need to go check in with the Westboro Baptist Church to see if my language has any etymological biases.
At least the WBC hasn’t actually committed mass murders in the name of their ideology.
Aw, it’s so cute when MRA jackasses try and co-opt social justice terms for their own end without having the slightest idea of what they mean. By cute I mean “really fucking annoying.”
Fuck back off to your own lonely blog, you abuser lobby shill piece of shit.
Otherwise I will go back to castigating you
You’ll reduce yourself to it either way because I disagree with your political views, and people who disagree with those views are worthy of whatever torrent of abuse you can release on them. Don’t pretend that your respect is something I would want to barter for, that’s horribly self-indulgent and pretentious.
I read “nurse” as childhood nurse as well; perhaps it’s because idealoguereview seems like a child.
I certainly am not looking for you to respect me, just answer the simple question I posed.
Until you do, I will enjoy telling you what a frothy earth-vexing pumpion you are.
I dunno, IR/FF, you seem to like the castigation, because why else would you be here? You’re incapable of learning, and you sure a shit aren’t here in good faith, so being berated must be your thing. That’s OK, but there’s other sites better equipped to deal with your fetish.
Positive being Preggo Punchout? How terribly positive that is. How gloriously, munificently, augustly positive you are. To what great ends dost thou envision the great change thou has wrought with this rare spectacle?
You ignorant asshole. We DO call out ableism among our own, even the piddling interpretive ableism that you’re fishing for. You’ve said nothing about my comments because I haven’t given you any scraps to jerk off to.
Now. Comment policy. You have ascribed false motives to us three times in THIS THREAD ALONE, something that you petulantly demanded David start banning people for when you claimed we were doing it to you based on virtually identical (albeit less baseless) rhetoric.
The reason that you see only hypocrisy and bigotry is because it oozes from your pores, sliding over your hooded eyes.
It looks like all you intend to do is shovel more dung on the same dying fire, though, so I’ll bow out with this comment. If you have nothing new to say, seriously, shut the fuck up.
You’re incapable of learning
I’m incapable of adopting your political views because a lot of feminists play lip service to equality and then just go around screaming at people.
@ideologuereview, flowery language aside, what “positive” did you think Preggo Punchout accomplished? What went through your mind? What happiness did you find from it? What significant contribution to the MRM did it represent?
I’m asking for real, because I genuinely want to know. The reason the MRM is seen as a hate movement, the abuser’s lobby, rape apologists, et al, is because of the hate and calls to violence that so many MRAs voice. What was your goal with Preggo Punchout?
Also, because feminists just get so gosh darn upset when you talk about how fun it would be to rape and beat them.
Mean ol’ feminists.
I’m pretty sure “I was almost a feminist, but then..” is this month’s “I have a very equal relationship with a very real woman who is happy and not feminist at all.”
But are you incapable of saying “X is not appropriate ever.” Or “I will tell my fellow MRAs that X is not appropriate.”
Cuz you neither learn nor admit to anything but you certainly whine a lot. And we are fresh out of cheese.
Damn. You finally get an MRA and want to ask them about their beliefs, and they vanish. Why is that??? Most people love to talk about their beliefs.
I’m loving this new “feminists just yell at people” approach. Like, even for Mr. Preggo Punchout, that’s a new level of ignorance and/or dishonesty. Has Paul Elam ever written anything that wasn’t yelling at and/or whining about women?
IRFF, you know better than to spam the comments policy page.
He sure did disappear in a hurry. I wonder why?
Now he pops up HERE? It’s like Whac-a-Troll, metaphorically speaking. (I know if I didn’t add that last he would accuse me of advocating violence.)
um, i love your blog & think you should be cloned a few million times. thank you!